Our bodies are very different from each other yet extremely similar. The basic functionalities of the body remain standard. What changes is the person’s ability to maintain the same. Sex is also a basic need of the body, which needs to be fulfilled after a pint of time.
However, many factors play a role when it comes to sex. The first thing you ought to do is get consent, which is easy and yet requires work. Nonetheless, thankfully our bodies have their innate quality to release the energy which builds inside. This is called masturbation.
The process of pleasuring yourself ultimately leads to a climax or an orgasm. In the case of men, the discharge is called semen. You cannot stop the sexual urge should you encounter the feeling. Hence, you masturbate to give the energy a release. But sometimes, even masturbation can be disappointing should you encounter premature ejaculation.
A climax or an orgasm is encountered by the end of sex or masturbation. This is done by developing a tension wherein the penis is stimulated enough to tense up the body until you climax and then relax.
But when it comes to premature ejaculation, the entire process of discharge is not under your control. This may cause several problems in your sex life. premature ejaculation occurs under the following circumstances:
- If you ejaculate or release within one minute of stimulation or penetration
- If you are unable to delay the release during the intercourse
- If you are feeling frustrated with your sex life even after masturbating
- The release is not providing the relaxation that it is supposed to
- If you are starting to avoid sex altogether
Types of premature ejaculation
This is not very known among people, but premature ejaculation is of two types. While the end result is still the same, they are either innate or acquired. Both can cause similar effects and make you nervous all the same.
- Innate premature ejaculation is from the very beginning of the sexual activity. That means that you have had the problem ever since you hit puberty and have been masturbating. This is also called primary premature ejaculation.
- Acquired secondary premature ejaculation is when you have had good sexual experiences. Premature ejaculation was not a problem until recently, and thus, you should go to a doctor if it becomes a regular thing.
While there are not many symptoms of premature ejaculation apart from releasing semen before you hit climax. However, you will notice that your body is getting uncomfortable.
You may also lose the sexual urge altogether if happen to encounter the problem regularly. You may also feel frustrated and depressed. Hence you should visit the doctor as soon as possible otherwise, it may lead to deterioration of mental health.
Sex problems are not unusual, and hence people visit sex therapists. Most sex problems are related to relationship problems and emotional problems. Premature ejaculation is not very different. While some physical causes may cause this, more often than not, men experience emotional problems that lead to the same. Some of the causes are mentioned below:
- Emotional causes of premature ejaculation
- Feeling guilty
- Not confident about the performance
- Having a poor body image
- Being anxious about sexual performance
- Negative past experiences with sex
- Physical causes that lead to premature ejaculation
- Fluctuating hormones
- Neurological problems wherein the brain are unable to send information to the penis
- Infection in the prostate or urethra
- Genetic problems
Home remedies to try
While premature ejaculation is a genuine problem and you should visit the doctor. However, there are some things you can do at home on your own to help your problem. They are as follows:
1. You can stop and start the process
If you think that you are about to release before you should, then stop the process altogether. It will help get your head in place again and then restart the process.
2. The squeeze
If you go to the doctor, he will tell you certain tips that you can do at home to make this problem go away. This technique is called the pause and squeeze. During intercourse, if you feel like you are about to ejaculate, stop. Then ask your partner to squeeze the end of the head until the feeling passes. Repeat the process if necessary.
If you are in a long-term relationship and have secondary premature ejaculation, you may suffer from some emotional problems. In such cases, you should try for couple’s counselling. However, if you think this has nothing to do with your partner, try single therapy.
4. Masturbate before having sex
Although, it is a myth that masturbating will impact the performance in a negative way. Masturbating one or two hours before sex will help you delay your ejaculation process.
Ultimately, you need to stop overthinking and relax. Orgasm is not the only thing in the world that can make sex satisfactory. Many couples have good sex just through foreplay and oral stimulation. Thus, even if you ejaculate early, there are other ways to satisfy your partner.
6. Distract yourself
If you think not many home remedies are helping, then try not to focus on the problem itself. Instead, calm down and try to think about smoothing else if you find think you will concur to premature ejaculation.
When should you go to the doctor?
There are times when men come early in excitement. This can also occur if you are deprived of sex or masturbation for a long time. However, if the problem persists and the home remedies render useless, then you should visit the doctor immediately.
Premature ejaculation is a very common problem among men. They lose confidence after one such incident, and it can make a bad impression on the other person. Nonetheless, it is very normal, and you should not be ashamed to talk about it. Therefore, you should visit the doctor or a therapist if you think you need help.